Last time I talked about the old Hollywood maxim "a fast yes, and you never hear no."
It's basically a culture built on ghosting, established long before that was a word we used.
Imagine working long and hard to expose the real you on the page, to find sharper and sharper cuts to expose your heart and soul, to drum up the courage to show yourself to another, and then never hearing a word about it.
That's what we as writers do, professionally, over and over.
I don't think many of us take into account what this does to your brain, your heart. It's like breaking up over and over by way of the other person disappearing. It wears you down emotionally.
It's almost like you have to numb that part of yourself that expects to be treated with tenderness, with respect, with the awe that should accrue to someone who just showed you her soul.
Until years have gone by and you are no longer even aware of how numb you've become. How accustomed you've become to expecting ... nothing. Silence.
A lot of the creative work I do is with the goal of unblocking, unnumbing. Reawakening whatever childish innocence has died.
This is a healing process everyone can take. And if you're a writer, it's crucial that you do.